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  • Christy Osborne & Meade Holland Shirley
    • Apr 1
    • 2 min read

Free of Me: Discovering Liberation from Self-Preoccupation with Sharon Hodde Miller




From the moment we cracked open the pages of her book, “Free Of Me, Why Life Is Better When It's Not About You,” we knew we needed Sharon Hodde Miller's wisdom on this pod, and we're incredibly grateful she accepted our invitation.

In a world saturated with the "me" mentality, Sharon shines a light on the pervasive impact of self-centeredness across every facet of our lives. It's a message that infiltrates our friendships, marriages, and even our faith, fracturing each in unique yet profound ways. Pursuing self-improvement often leaves us joyless, our souls diminished, trapped in the cycle of perpetual insecurity.

Sharon helps us unpack the intricacies of "image management," exposing its corrosive effect on relationships, where individuals are reduced to mere reflections of our own self-image. Through personal anecdotes and profound insights, she guides us through the labyrinth of toxic thought patterns, offering tangible strategies rooted in God's attributes for healing and restoration.

Sharon challenges us to shift our gaze away from ourselves, unveiling a path of profound healing and freedom in loving God and others. Together, we explore the delicate balance between self-care and self-neglect, emphasizing the inherent worth of embracing our identity as beloved daughters of God.

We also have a candid chat about the ebbs and flows of waiting seasons, urging us to embrace humility and openness to the transformative work of the Holy Spirit. It's a journey that promises growth, refinement, and, ultimately, freedom from the suffocating grip of self-preoccupation. Join us as we embark on this transformative expedition towards a life liberated from the confines of self.


You can follow Sharon on Instagram at @sharonhmiller. 

Check our her books on Amazon: 


You can find this episode HERE on YouTube


00:00 Welcome to 'But Jesus Drank Wine' Podcast

00:29 Introducing Sharon Hottie Miller: Author, Leader, and Mom

01:11 The Journey to 'Free of Me': Overcoming Insecurity and Self-Preoccupation

06:11 The Power of Self-Forgetfulness: Finding Freedom from Ourselves

30:18 Navigating the Challenges of Publishing and Staying Humble

31:21 Embracing Humility and the Gift of Hiddenness

43:15 Final Thoughts and Encouragement


The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.


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